I don't feel like I'm in the 3rd trimester... at all! I still feel like I should be in the first or early second. Time just doesn't seem to want to slow down. So I'm feeling good, pregnancy-wise! Not really having any symptoms, only get back pain when I'm doing something I shouldn't (sitting improperly, for example).
No swelling, still wearing the wedding ring. My hair is still a frizzball mess so I did a search last night about what would be the best products to help. I'm just going to have to try a bunch of stuff to find what works! I use Inf.usium 23 shampoo and conditioner so I may get their "Frizz Ologie" stuff to see how it works. My hair is soft, but it just frizzes out!
Now onto my vent. This is a pretty serious vent about something that irks me like nothing else can irk me. And I don't even care if the person ends up finding this- it might be best if they did. On Fac.ebook I'm friends with a guy from my former youth group. Apparently he got married and they're having their first baby.
Well he keeps updating his status to say that they're trying to get his wife's contractions going, that they're eager to meet baby and that they're ready for him to be here. No problem, right?
He started doing that when she was around 32-33 weeks pregnant! She is currently only 36 weeks pregnant. See where I'm going with this?
If you want to be a pig-headed, selfish jerk go ahead and have your baby prematurely. The March of Dimes doesn't mean anything? RSV? Asthma? Your baby's vision and respiration? How about his birthweight (at 36 weeks the most you could probably hope for is a 4-pound baby!)? Do you know what a NICU is?
Sure, babies can be born early and survive miraculously. Some don't even have problems (or at least not until later in life). But DELIBERATELY wanting to bring your child into the world before the 40 weeks is up, without any medical issues, is the nastiest and most selfish thing I've ever heard. All because you're "so excited to meet him".
So of course I mention to him that studies show that babies born before 37 weeks do not fair well with respiration and end up in the NICU whether they have a problem or not, etc., etc.
His response is another update: "Stop living in fear! God is going to protect my son and he will be born healthy!"
Not fear, sweetheart. It's called concern and reality. Stop being immature and selfish. Babies DIE, babies get sick. Also, God created the gestation period for human beings to be 40 weeks, NOT 30-something. Stop trying to bring your baby into the world before he is meant to be here. Stop getting in the way of God's timing for your son to be born, if you want to bring God into the conversation! It is one thing when your wife's life is in danger, if your son's life is in danger or if premature birth is unpreventable. It is intentionally and willfully trying to induce labor before baby is even ready that makes me so, so, so angry!
I am praying that their child stays in for another month. A month is a long time! A lot happens in those final weeks to prepare baby for the world. And this guy and his wife want to jack it all up out of their eagerness and naivety. Dear God help them! I hope they know how to even care for a newborn. (Okay so that last statement was really judgmental and I apologize, to an extent! I'm really really really nervous for that baby!)
I don't know what else to say so I haven't said anything else beyond the statistics I pointed out. I don't think this person wants to hear it and won't be receptive at all. But I'm not going to take him off my Fac.ebook because I'm too eager to hear how everything turns out for their child.
End of the rant from a very emotionally-charged pregnant woman. I'm eager to meet Zoe, but not at the cost of her life and/or health. People are just too impatient in this generation for their own good.